Women, what are you looking for in guys?

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Permalink Reply by Vicky on May 20, 2009 at 2:14pm

I would say reliability is very important: fact that I can rely on a man no matter what. But my friend says that dating a guy who is not ready for the commitment is the worse what can happen to a women. Maybe that’s your problem? Do you have commitment phobic?

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Permalink Reply by angel Hudepohl on May 20, 2009 at 10:00pm

Don't try to re-invent yourself into something that you think women are looking for, Tqed. Just be the genuine Tqed - for better or ... worse :-).

The 'genuine article' acts as a magnet to many of us flowers. Good luck!! :-)

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Permalink Reply by Agata on May 21, 2009 at 12:15am

I'd agree, be yourself and be patient with yourself. Don't give up!

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Permalink Reply by kate on May 21, 2009 at 1:12pm

I don’t know where you from are and who are you dating but I think that cultural background plays a significant role in relationships. I heard for example that Dutch men get really turned on by dominant women. I don’t know what works for Dutch women. I’d suggest first find this out.

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Permalink Reply by Joke on May 22, 2009 at 11:27pm

We are not different from the rest of the world. We want men who are loyal!

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Permalink Reply by Sara on May 27, 2009 at 11:48pm

Are you secure in yourself? If yes, you should never be afraid or timid when approaching any lady.

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Permalink Reply by Bryen on May 29, 2009 at 10:52pm

There is the belief that men and women are DIFFERENT in the way that men want sex and women want love, men fall in love through sex, women fall in sex through love. But I disagree; men think women don't like sex. Women like sex as much if not more than men do. The "difference" is that women are stigmatized as "sluts" if they demonstrate that, whereas men are pretty much heroes to their peers if they "get laid" a lot.

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Permalink Reply by Catherine Lombard on June 6, 2009 at 3:45pm

It is my experience that most of us base how we love on how we have learned to love. So, to better understand how you function in relationship it becomes vital that you look at your primary relationship, and for most of us this was with our mothers. Usually the pattern is the same throughout our lives until we become conscious of it and try very hard to change it. So you can change everything from how you cut your hair to how clean your toenails are to how much money you make to how well you express your feelings, but if you haven't come to an understanding of how you learned to relate to others through your relationship growing up with your mother (I say mother, but it can be father or any primary caregiver) then all is for naught. Good luck!

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Permalink Reply by Michelle on June 17, 2009 at 3:24pm

Perhaps you are choosing the wrong partners for yourself and maybe the communication between the two of you is not so good. Where are you finding these women and how long are your relationships lasting for?

I donot think you should change yourself, but perhaps you need to look into why you are choosing partners who only want short term relationships...

It is also possible that you may have contributed to these breakdowns..and if you have ...possibly ask them why?

Good luck and donot give up...

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Permalink Reply by Tqed on July 4, 2009 at 6:14pm

Your comments are valuable and I will think about every of them, thanks.

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